The standard question of “How did your day go?” or “What did you do today?” not surprisingly gets little response from kids and spouses alike so why do we keep asking the same old thing? One thing I have realized in my own life is that if I want different results, I need to try a different approach to whatever it is that I am trying to accomplish.
I read a cute article from the “Dream Team Disney” today that gave a fresh twist on how to really spark conversation with your family.
One family faced with the same old answers of “fine” or “nothing” began a game. The game is called What’s Hot and What’s Not. In essence the kids just related to this more on their level and began to take their responses seriously and gave a lot of thought to what they wanted to share about their lives and feelings. They said a couple of things that happened that day that was “hot” or good or cool or whatever and a couple of things that were “not” so hot or fun or cool. Like how one of the boy’s friends got into a fight at school and he felt stuck in the middle of his two friend's fight. Or how the little girl was really nervous to memorize and recite a poem for class…or whatever. Even the parents chip in and share with the kids the good things and bad things that happened in their day…within reason of course!
Instead of mom trying to pull teeth for conversation the family actually had things to talk about and it gave mom a much more rich view of their kids and their experiences. She says they play all of the time: in the car, home from Church, at dinner, on trips.
So, I am going to play too, even if no one else does :-)
What’s Hot? And What’s Not?
I am in a good mood today even though I didn’t get much sleep
I took a walk and enjoyed the sunshine
I am looking forward for a long weekend (because of Pioneer Day here)
I forgot my lunch and I am starving
I just ate a candy bar for lunch…maybe on a different day that would be a Hot :-)
I have a few errands to run and don’t want to
What is your Hot and Not for the day? Do you think it sounds like something you will try out at home?